Many, if not most, of the clients seen by a family law attorney manifest a high degree of anxiety. This anxiety (which can present in a variety of ways) can interfere with the attorney’s ability to concentrate on the legal aspects of the case. When the mental health aspects are severe,...
Couples Beware. January is considered breakup month
According to a recent article in the New York Times, January has been unofficially dubbed “divorce month.”
While this may not be the most cheerful way to ring in the new year, the fact is that many struggling couples are prompted to consider divorce/breakup as part of the self-evaluation process that goes along with putting their...
WHY IS IT SO HARD TO LET GO OF YOUR EX?
Attachment is part of the human condition.
When you were happily attached to your partner, you felt secure.
Unfortunately, you may not have learned how to let go in the same way you learned to attach. So, when loss happens, you may not know how to deal with it.
Why is breaking up so hard to do?
Below are the two...
Is Divorce harder for the person leaving (The Dumper) or for the one being left (The Dumpee)?
In most divorce situations, one person wants out of the marriage while the other doesn’t. Even in cases where a couple mutually agrees to a divorce, there is usually one person wants to hold on to the marriage more than the other one does.
Is it more difficult for the person left because they were blindsided and their world...
Does Divorce Among The Wealthy Differ From a Middle Class Divorce?
The internet was burning up last week with the announcement of billionaire and CEO of Amazon Jeff Bezos’ divorce from his wife MacKenzie Bezos.
As someone who has experienced divorce first hand and written about it extensively, I couldn’t help wondering whether divorce is different for people who are super rich.
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THE IMPORTANCE OF ACCEPTING DIFFERENCES IN RESOLVING COUPLES' CONFLICTS
Redefining Collaborative Divorce:
Is There More We Can Do To Help Our Clients Grow and Heal?
Many of us try to resolve relationship conflicts by demanding an overhaul of our partners. Why? Often, we define the problem in terms of the other person: “I have problems because of you and the way you are,” we are inclined to tell...
THE ROLES OF MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS IN DIVORCE
Let's Consider The “Emotional” Divorce
GUIDING YOUR CLIENTS THROUGH THE EMOTIONAL TURMOIL OF DIVIDING THE ASSETS
Let’s talk money – a core concern of any divorce experience
Let’s talk money – a core concern of any divorce experience. Most of us tend to think about money in terms of dollars and cents; about making the “right” financial choices. Money, however, is a much more complex part of our lives. Money has the...
WE ARE ALMOST DIVORCED...So Why Bother Getting Along ?
Simple But Important Tools To Help Make A Bad Relationship Better
Introduction
When I was going through my divorce, my Dad, a corporate attorney, told me the following; “Everybody wins and everybody loses.” At the time, I was too caught up in the war to be able to grasp the meaning of that wisdom. Like me, most people going through a...
KEEPING COLLABORATION A PART OF THE POST DIVORCE RELATIONSHIP
Divorce doesn’t end when the papers are signed, so why does the job of the Collaborative divorce professional? While we provide an invaluable service to our clients, some of the most challenging aspects of divorce appear after the process is completed. Anyone going through a divorce will almost certainly need some help getting back on his...
HOW CLIENTS' EMOTIONS CAN INTERFERE WITH SOUND LEGAL RESOLUTION
The Unique Complexity Of Working With Divorcing Clients: Emotions On The Edge
When clients seek out the help of the Collaborative team, it is at a time of deep emotional trouble, a time when most feel they have lost their center of gravity. As such, working with divorcing people presents numerous challenges to the team. In a large part, these...