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A Pandemic Pep Talk

Introduction

I just finished a session with a client who is very caught up in the panic and stress of the pandemic and the uncertainty of the world around us.

Listen, I get it.  Life is tough right now.  We’re all taking a beating and it’s hard not to wallow in these heavy emotions of stress, fear, doubt, and...

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What Do Ruth Bader Ginsburg, A Marriage of Equals and COVID 19 Have In Common?

PLENTY, IT TURNS OUT.

Justice Ginsburg spent her life building a world in which women and men were on equal footing, at home, in their personal relationships, and well beyond.  

With the Covid 19 pandemic alive and well, and no end in sight, the battle for gender equality and women’s independence that Ginsburg fought so hard for...

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Acedia – The Pandemic Emotion No One Talks About - But Everyone Feels

 

If your emotions feel like a rollercoaster because of Covid 19, you’re not alone.

In my practice I’ve seen everything from people shutting down and having no motivation or feeling tired, restless, worried, sad, overwhelmed, exhausted or angry, not to mention being terrified by the uncertainty of not knowing what comes next.

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Find Meaning In The COVID Pandemic: Begin By Helping Others

Recently, after spending more time than I care to admit feeling angry, lonely and oh so sorry for myself because of being isolated from friends and family due to the pandemic, I decided I had better change my way of thinking and feeling and consider how to transform what I was experiencing as personal adversity into greater wisdom and meaning in...

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How To Improve Your Attachment Style To Your Romantic Partner During The Pandemic Lockdown

Introduction

As humans, we are social beings and are wired for attachment. 

Our bond with our parents or caregiver creates an “attachment style” – a kind of blueprint for how we handle close relationships later in life.

As adults, we seek or avoid intimacy along a continuum of attachment styles, ranging from secure to...

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What Do You Do If You And Your Partner Disagree On How Risky COVID 19 Is?

 

Strategies To Protect Your Relationship

Partners, even those in long-term relationships, can have very different coping styles when it comes to dealing with the painful uncertainties of Covid 19.  

One may be more purposeful and proactive in moments of crisis, while the other is more passive and fatalistic.

However, if you and...

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Redefining The Work-Relationship Balance During COVID 19 Lockdown: Strategies To Protect Your Relationship

Once upon a time, the work-family configuration was comprised of separate spheres – work took place out of the home.  At the end of the workday, the stresses of work were essentially over, and home was a private retreat reserved for family.

Now, with the Covid 19 isolation, and modern technology allowing couples to telecommute, the...

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