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The Check-Up for Couples Under Quarantine

If you are going to weather the Covid crisis, your relationship cannot be in crisis too.

With lockdown measures in place due to the spread of Covid 19, you may be spending more time with your partner than ever before.

Yes, there’s a good chance you might be getting on each other’s nerves.

Perhaps, you’re already at each...

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Couples Beware. January is considered breakup month

According to a recent article in the New York Times, January has been unofficially dubbed “divorce month.”

While this may not be the most cheerful way to ring in the new year, the fact is that many struggling couples are prompted to consider divorce/breakup as part of the self-evaluation process that goes along with putting their...

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How To Transform Conflict Into Closeness

Recently, in between one of our weekly meetings, a high-conflict couple I am working with emailed me several pages of intense communications they had with one another.  Ostensibly, this was to highlight how they slid back into their typical primitive, reptile-like fighting style.  But, what each one really wanted me to do was to...

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BOUNDARIES IN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS

A boundary is something that marks a limit. Think of psychological boundaries as guidelines that preserve your individuality from your partner’s. They comprise your uniqueness – your history, experiences, interests, personality, and values….your “you-ness.”


 

Setting Clear Boundaries – I am not You...

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