Many, if not most, of the clients seen by a family law attorney manifest a high degree of anxiety. This anxiety (which can present in a variety of ways) can interfere with the attorney’s ability to concentrate on the legal aspects of the case. When the mental health aspects are severe,...
Should You Ever Lie To Your Partner?
When I was a little girl, my Dad, - a very wise man who was passionate about justice - told me that I should always look people in the eyes and tell them the truth. I imagine many of you have been told the same.
Relationships should be based on honesty. By being truthful and managing the inevitable conflicts that...
How To Transform Conflict Into Closeness
Recently, in between one of our weekly meetings, a high-conflict couple I am working with emailed me several pages of intense communications they had with one another. Ostensibly, this was to highlight how they slid back into their typical primitive, reptile-like fighting style. But, what each one really wanted me to do was to...
Tips to Help You Stop Repeatedly Sabotaging Your Romantic Relationships
It’s Not Me, It’s You – Or is it?
We all do it. We think our relationships have problems because our partner needs to do something differently.
“She’s so self-centered. I never feel understood.”
“My husband is so inflexible and will rarely change his opinions.
Did...
WHY IS IT SO HARD TO LET GO OF YOUR EX?
Attachment is part of the human condition.
When you were happily attached to your partner, you felt secure.
Unfortunately, you may not have learned how to let go in the same way you learned to attach. So, when loss happens, you may not know how to deal with it.
Why is breaking up so hard to do?
Below are the two...
Is Divorce harder for the person leaving (The Dumper) or for the one being left (The Dumpee)?
In most divorce situations, one person wants out of the marriage while the other doesn’t. Even in cases where a couple mutually agrees to a divorce, there is usually one person wants to hold on to the marriage more than the other one does.
Is it more difficult for the person left because they were blindsided and their world...
Does Divorce Among The Wealthy Differ From a Middle Class Divorce?
The internet was burning up last week with the announcement of billionaire and CEO of Amazon Jeff Bezos’ divorce from his wife MacKenzie Bezos.
As someone who has experienced divorce first hand and written about it extensively, I couldn’t help wondering whether divorce is different for people who are super rich.
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THE IMPORTANCE OF ACCEPTING DIFFERENCES IN RESOLVING COUPLES' CONFLICTS
Redefining Collaborative Divorce:
Is There More We Can Do To Help Our Clients Grow and Heal?
Many of us try to resolve relationship conflicts by demanding an overhaul of our partners. Why? Often, we define the problem in terms of the other person: “I have problems because of you and the way you are,” we are inclined to tell...
THE ROLES OF MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS IN DIVORCE
Let's Consider The “Emotional” Divorce
GUIDING YOUR CLIENTS THROUGH THE EMOTIONAL TURMOIL OF DIVIDING THE ASSETS
Let’s talk money – a core concern of any divorce experience
Let’s talk money – a core concern of any divorce experience. Most of us tend to think about money in terms of dollars and cents; about making the “right” financial choices. Money, however, is a much more complex part of our lives. Money has the...
WE ARE ALMOST DIVORCED...So Why Bother Getting Along ?
Simple But Important Tools To Help Make A Bad Relationship Better
Introduction
When I was going through my divorce, my Dad, a corporate attorney, told me the following; “Everybody wins and everybody loses.” At the time, I was too caught up in the war to be able to grasp the meaning of that wisdom. Like me, most people going through a...