HOW TO BE SEPARATE AND TOGETHER
Introduction
People are always asking me "How can I can make room for both my needs and my partner’s needs in our relationship?" They go on to say that, more often than not, one or the other gets their way, which inevitably leads to resentments.
What they are really asking me is "How do we create a feeling of mutuality without undermining...
BOUNDARIES IN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS
A boundary is something that marks a limit. Think of psychological boundaries as guidelines that preserve your individuality from your partner’s. They comprise your uniqueness – your history, experiences, interests, personality, and values….your “you-ness.”
DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS
Would You Know If You Were In A Dysfunctional Relationship?
Definition
The terms “toxic,” “dysfunctional,” and “codependent” are used to describe relationships that are not working. Although experts decipher differences in their meanings, the terms are often used interchangeably. That is because they all...
WHAT HAVE YOU DONE FOR YOUR PARTNER LATELY?
As part of my professional training, I spent many years studying psychoanalytic theory and technique. In short, my job was to help my clients examine past relationships for the purpose of understanding their present ones. The goal of the therapy was to develop Self-awareness.
After years of clinical work helping people to develop insight...
MORE ON THE “PANIC OF THE I”
In my clinical practice, a very common reaction to the loss of a partner is “I don’t know who I am anymore.” Sound familiar?
One of my clients aptly referred to his post-divorce aloneness as the “panic of the I.” He compared his feelings to those of a toddler who feels the world is safe and friendly until his...
PANIC OF THE “I”
Your divorce has thrown you into a very lonely place full of conflicted feelings of rejection and longing, love and hate, remorse and rage, not to mention sadness and relief. While you used to have a counterpart to help you through hard times, now you are on your own without a solid grasp on who you are as an individual. This is what I refer...
CHANGE OR IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP
How To Use The Power Of Empathy To Revive, Change Or Improve Your Relationship
What Is Empathy?
Simply put, empathy is understanding: the sensing of another person’s underlying feelings, wants, and emotional dynamics – looking at the world through their lenses – “What would I be feeling if I were him or her?”...
SHOULD YOU DIVORCE OR SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE?
The following shocking divorce statistics are from the U.S. Census Bureau:
- Around 50% of marriages in the United States end in divorce.
- 48% of first marriages end in divorce.
- 60% of second marriages end in divorce.
- 73% of third marriages end in divorce.
- In America, there is one divorce every 13 seconds. That is 6,636 divorces per day and...