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Valentine’s Day Is About Love, Not Lovers

When you think of Valentine’s Day, I’ll wager you think of red roses, chocolates and heartfelt cards.

Today, Valentine’s Day means BIG business for card, candy and flower companies.

Although Valentine’s Day has become commercialized for lovers, it should be a time to celebrate love, and to connect with people you care...

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What Can We Commoners Learn About Strong Marriages From The Royals?

Plenty.

Prince Harry and Duchess Meghan announced last week that they are stepping back from their roles as senior members of the British Royal family.

Your grandma may not be the Queen, but I am confident that many of you can relate to Meghan’s and Harry’s family struggles and couple dilemmas.

Let me explain.

Conflict Resolution

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Couples Beware. January is considered breakup month

According to a recent article in the New York Times, January has been unofficially dubbed “divorce month.”

While this may not be the most cheerful way to ring in the new year, the fact is that many struggling couples are prompted to consider divorce/breakup as part of the self-evaluation process that goes along with putting their...

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How Can I Improve My Love Relationship in 2020?

New Year’s Tips To Reboot Your Romantic Relationship

New Year’s is just around the corner and it’s time to think about the resolutions and changes you would like to make in your romantic relationships so that they are stronger and more secure than ever. 

According to research from the Journal of Clinical...

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Should you consider counseling with Dr. Deb Hecker?

MAYBE YES, MAYBE NO.

In my experience, consulting with clients who are considering whether or not to pursue counseling with me to improve their lives, the path to this decision is as varied as the people who travel down it.

Could be they would like their relationships to be better, their mood or anxiety to feel more manageable, or there are...

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Radical Acts of Kindness

Tis’ the season to get into the holiday spirit.

Sadly, this can also be a stressful time of year, figuring out the perfect gift to buy your partner and worrying about spending money.

However, kindness toward your partner requires very little time, money or hard work - simply a willingness to act from your heart.

In my practice, I have seen...

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Answer these 5 questions after your break-up and you’ll heal faster

The failure of a relationship closes one chapter of your life and starts a new one.

The healing process involves putting together a new and meaningful life.

However, it’s not like getting over the flu – rest, drink lots of fluids, and come out the other side good as new.

Recovering from the loss of a relationship takes time….a...

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Are you really as empathic with your partner as you think you are?

“Why can’t he just listen and try to understand my feelings / experience rather than telling me to stick to the “facts”?” 

“When we get into an argument, why does she always act like she’s being attacked?” 

I’ve seen the long-term effects of couples who really want to connect with...

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What do running a marathon and navigating a successful romantic relationship have in common?

More than you might think. 

There are no easy solutions or magic pills that will guarantee victory for either. 

Both involve a substantial commitment of time and effort. 

Neither is an impossible feat designed for special people.  They are for people like YOU, who want to push the limits and get out of your comfort zone....

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Have you hit a wall in your relationship?

Have you ever felt like your relationship was at a standstill? 

Like you and your partner have hit a wall and keep repeating the same flawed relationship patterns, and can’t seem to move forward? 

You want to keep going but you don’t know how to get unstuck? 

This is a very painful and frustrating spot to be in. 

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