THE IMPORTANCE OF ACCEPTING DIFFERENCES IN RESOLVING COUPLES' CONFLICTS

Redefining Collaborative Divorce:
Is There More We Can Do To Help Our Clients Grow and Heal?

Many of us try to resolve relationship conflicts by demanding an overhaul of our partners. Why? Often, we define the problem in terms of the other person: “I have problems because of you and the way you are,” we are inclined to tell...

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THE ROLES OF MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS IN DIVORCE

Let's Consider The “Emotional” Divorce

Many, if not most, of the clients seen by a family law attorney manifest a high degree of anxiety. This anxiety (which can present in a variety of ways) can interfere with the attorney’s ability to concentrate on the legal aspects of the case. When the mental health aspects are severe,...

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GUIDING YOUR CLIENTS THROUGH THE EMOTIONAL TURMOIL OF DIVIDING THE ASSETS

Let’s talk money – a core concern of any divorce experience

Let’s talk money – a core concern of any divorce experience. Most of us tend to think about money in terms of dollars and cents; about making the “right” financial choices. Money, however, is a much more complex part of our lives. Money has the...

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WE ARE ALMOST DIVORCED...So Why Bother Getting Along ?

Simple But Important Tools To Help Make A Bad Relationship Better

Introduction

When I was going through my divorce, my Dad, a corporate attorney, told me the following; “Everybody wins and everybody loses.” At the time, I was too caught up in the war to be able to grasp the meaning of that wisdom. Like me, most people going through a...

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KEEPING COLLABORATION A PART OF THE POST DIVORCE RELATIONSHIP

Divorce doesn’t end when the papers are signed, so why does the job of the Collaborative divorce professional? While we provide an invaluable service to our clients, some of the most challenging aspects of divorce appear after the process is completed. Anyone going through a divorce will almost certainly need some help getting back on his...

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HOW CLIENTS' EMOTIONS CAN INTERFERE WITH SOUND LEGAL RESOLUTION

The Unique Complexity Of Working With Divorcing Clients: Emotions On The Edge

When clients seek out the help of the Collaborative team, it is at a time of deep emotional trouble, a time when most feel they have lost their center of gravity. As such, working with divorcing people presents numerous challenges to the team. In a large part, these...

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WHAT ARE CLIENTS REALLY LOOKING FOR IN A DIVORCE ATTORNEY?

 

When it comes to choosing a divorce attorney, I have heard people say, “I want the meanest, toughest attorney I can find. I need a fighter, someone who’ll take out that shark my spouse hired.” That attitude always makes me shudder. A talented attorney doesn’t have to fight and sling mud to engineer a successful...

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HELPING CHILDREN COPE WITH HEARTBREAK

The Need to Advocate for Children of Divorce

Introduction

With the recent publication of Mike Mastracci’s excellent book Stop Fighting Over the Kids; Resolving Day-to-Day Custody Conflict in Divorce Situations, I found myself focused on the overwhelming struggles that divorcing children must face. Children do not understand the...

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HOW DO I KNOW IF I NEED DIVORCE COUNSELING?

Introduction

Divorce challenges the basic sense of who you are, who you’ve been, and who you’ll become. Healing from a divorce is not like getting over the flu where one rests, drinks lots of fluids and comes out the other side good as new.

Surviving a divorce is much more like recovering from a traumatic accident in which you...

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HOW WILL I BENEFIT FROM DIVORCE COUNSELING?

Introduction

Ask anyone who has been through a divorce and they will tell you it rocks the foundation of your being, leaves you feeling lonely, flawed, undesirable, enraged, and hopeless, to name a few emotions.

During my divorce twenty-seven years ago, I was in desperate need of a roadmap to help me to better understand what went wrong –...

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