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What Is The Impact Of Unemployment On A Couples’ Relationship?

Introduction

Research shows that losing one’s job is as devastating a loss as divorce and death of a loved one.

More than 42.6 million Americans have filed jobless claims since the pandemic shutdown began in mid-March.

You and your partner may already be amongst the 42. 6 million, or you may face the real possibility of unemployment in the...

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How To Generate Optimism and Opportunity During COVID 19

As a person who typically sees the glass as half full, I am the first to admit that even an optimist can experience moments of pessimism brought on by the coronavirus.

The unpredictability and uncertainty brought by this virus promises new rules and limitations, challenges our ability to hold onto hope, and confidence that indeed this is the...

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Mother’s Day Reflections

Every Mother’s Day, our culture puts motherhood on a pedestal.  

As a Mom, and I speak for the millions of other Moms, I know that the real work of motherhood can be a daily grind – the worrying, the guilt, the concerns and the fears (not to mention the headaches).  We make mistakes, plenty of them.  Sometimes we...

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Don’t Let Your Romantic Relationship Become Another COVID 19 Casualty

 

Strategies To protect Your Relationship

Self- isolating with your partner indefinitely can be a BIG challenge for your relationship.

For sure, there are benefits to the challenge. You can strengthen the bond with your partner. And… .you can have sex anytime the mood strikes you.

But, make no mistake about it, you can also be faced...

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What Do You Do If You And Your Partner Disagree On How Risky COVID 19 Is?

 

Strategies To Protect Your Relationship

Partners, even those in long-term relationships, can have very different coping styles when it comes to dealing with the painful uncertainties of Covid 19.  

One may be more purposeful and proactive in moments of crisis, while the other is more passive and fatalistic.

However, if you and...

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Redefining The Work-Relationship Balance During COVID 19 Lockdown: Strategies To Protect Your Relationship

Once upon a time, the work-family configuration was comprised of separate spheres – work took place out of the home.  At the end of the workday, the stresses of work were essentially over, and home was a private retreat reserved for family.

Now, with the Covid 19 isolation, and modern technology allowing couples to telecommute, the...

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The Power Of Kindness During Covid 19: Unexpected Benefits

Can you remember the last time a stranger was kind to you?
Can you recall the last time you helped someone?

For most of us, the world of Covid 19 feels like a scary place.  You hope for positive news, but more often than not you are left feeling scared and helpless.

Well, here’s some good news. You aren’t as helpless as you may...

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How To Make Love Last In The Age Of The Coronavirus and Telecommuting

It used to be that work took place in the office from nine to five.  Outside those hours, your time was your own – for relationships, family, relaxation, and play.

Oh, how the times have changed.

The proliferation of technology into every aspect of our lives and, most recently, the outbreak of the coronavirus (Covid 19) have made ...

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Are You Or Your Partner Responsible For Your Happiness?

Once upon a time, I went through a very painful divorce.  It was so easy to blame my spouse for my unhappiness. After all, he cracked open our family on a sunny afternoon and started another one.  

Just like that.

Lately, I have been speaking to a number of clients who have broken up or are going through rough times with their...

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Valentine’s Day Is About Love, Not Lovers

When you think of Valentine’s Day, I’ll wager you think of red roses, chocolates and heartfelt cards.

Today, Valentine’s Day means BIG business for card, candy and flower companies.

Although Valentine’s Day has become commercialized for lovers, it should be a time to celebrate love, and to connect with people you care...

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