It’s Not Me, It’s You – Or is it?
We all do it. We think our relationships have problems because our partner needs to do something differently.
“She’s so self-centered. I never feel understood.”
“My husband is so inflexible and will rarely change his opinions.
Did it ever occur to you that you, yes you, may be the problem?
That no matter how hard you are trying and all that you are giving to the relationship, you keep repeating the same patterns over and over, and these behaviors may be sabotaging your relationship, leading to divorces and break-ups.
What Are Sabotaging Behaviors?
There are many variations of sabotaging behaviors, but they share some common characteristics:
If your repeated sabotaging behaviors have caused your marriage or relationship to break apart (or to be on the verge of rupturing) the good news is that you can make a choice to change your behaviors so that you can create the relationship you want.
Steps To Replace Your Destructive Behaviors With Constructive Ones
In order stop making the same mistakes and falling into the same relationship ruts,
you can implement the following steps:
Same Story, Same Ending. Different Story, Different Ending
When you keep making the same mistakes in your relationships over and over again, it’s probably not a coincidence.
You will continue to make these mistakes if you keep sweeping them under the rug.
If you are dealing with a relationship loss because you, once again, found yourself engaging in repeated relationship mistakes, don’t despair. You can choose to learn from your loss and turn it into a gain.
If that is your desire – to learn from your relationship mistakes and to change your behavior for successful outcomes – I can help you.
Whenever you’re ready, here are 3 ways I can help you - heal from your breakup, understand your role in it, and learn to develop “divorce-proof” relationship skills so you don’t repeat the same mistakes.