Ask anyone who has been through a divorce and they will tell you it rocks the foundation of your being, leaves you feeling lonely, flawed, undesirable, enraged, and hopeless, to name a few emotions.
During my divorce twenty-seven years ago, I was in desperate need of a roadmap to help me to better understand what went wrong – for myself as an individual as well as for my marriage. Without developing that insight I knew I would have difficulty healing and having successful relationships in the future.
I sought out professional help. At the time, I was living in a major U.S. city where there were many talented and well-trained therapists. I received assistance working through my grief reaction. However, what I also needed was someone who understood why my level of insecurity about being un-partnered was so disproportionate to the loss. Unfortunately, I was unable to find that person.
My solution was to take matters into my own hands by embarking on a journey of personal introspection and professional research. This resulted in the development of my unique divorce counseling process, which has helped countless people to move beyond their grief and to build a secure identity as a single person.
In the following section, I will share with you how people will grow and benefit from my brand of divorce counseling.
Healing from a divorce is a three-step process; one must grieve their loss; they must create an identity as a non-partnered person; and they need to learn a new relationship model so they will avoid previous relationship pitfalls.
Divorce counseling will help you to take ownership of the Self you relinquished in your marriage and gain the skills for new and healthy partnering. This growth will also help you to:
Most importantly, you will learn that you can be happy again.