MAYBE YES, MAYBE NO.
In my experience, consulting with clients who are considering whether or not to pursue counseling with me to improve their lives, the path to this decision is as varied as the people who travel down it.
Could be they would like their relationships to be better, their mood or anxiety to feel more manageable, or there are specific behaviors they would like to change.
However, if you are deliberating whether or not to engage in a personal growth experience with me, I want you to be prepared so that you increase your chances of therapy being helpful.
You should consider counseling with me if:
You are willing to take a hard look at yourself. Counseling is work, but I will work with you.
You are willing to face your fears.
You are willing to learn new tools to replace bad habits and make permanent changes.
You are willing to be honest with yourself (and me) about things you may want to avoid acknowledging.
You should NOT consider counseling with me if:
You are looking for a quick fix and instant solutions. Authentic change doesn’t come easily.
You are looking for free advice. In order to change your behaviors, you must be prepared to take full responsibility for your own life.
You think I have the magic answer to your problems. I do not.
You are not prepared to be uncomfortable before feeling better.
I’m not saying all of this to scare you off.
I simply don’t want you to waste your time.
Or, to hold onto any unrealistic expectations.
I want you to be prepared for what you may be committing yourself to.
So, yes counseling is HARD. If it were easy, you’d have been able to make the changes on your own a long time ago. It’s the only way I know to help you to experience authentic, long-lasting healing and growth.
Learn WHY your marriage/relationship came apart, the PART you played in it, and most importantly, HOW to empower yourself to move forward to ensure that these issues don’t occur in your future romantic relationships (to virtually “divorce-proof” them).