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IS IT EVER OK TO LIE TO YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER?

Introduction

All of us remember the story of Pinocchio and the role honesty played in his life. In order for Pinocchio, a marionette, to become the real boy he longed to be, first he had to prove that he had true values. However, the blue fairy warned him about lying, “A lie will keep growing till it’s as plain as the nose on your...

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YOU KNOW A LOT LESS THAN YOU THINK YOU DO

 

Introduction

Personally, I have been very troubled by the deep divides that currently exist in many areas of our society – religious, political, racial, as well as the differences between individuals.

I even find myself wondering if the gulf between what something feels like to me and to others is impenetrable.

It is so easy to disapprove...

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Every Mother’s Day, Our Culture Puts Motherhood on a Pedestal

As a Mom, and I speak for the millions of other Moms, I know that the real work of motherhood can be a daily grind – the worrying, the guilt, the concerns and the fears (not to mention the headaches). We make mistakes, plenty of them. Why? Because Motherhood can be demanding, exhausting, and messy.

Sometimes we feel very loved and...

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WHEN ONE OF YOUR CLOSEST FRIEND’S DIES

When I spoke to Linda on Christmas day, that version of me could not possibly know the loss I was about to experience 6 weeks later in February, when she died of Covid 19.  Of course, I know that none of us is invincible, and that experiencing loss binds all human beings together, but that doesn’t make it any easier when your dear...

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EVERYTHING YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT SEX DURING THE PANDEMIC BUT ARE AFRAID TO ASK

Can Coronavirus spread through sex?  Well, No--and--Yes, the experts tell us.

Can one stay 6 feet apart from their partner with a mask on and have great sex? Mmmmm.

My single clients often ask me if it is safe to start a new relationship or to have safe sex in an era of physical distancing? 

Not so much. You are your safest sex...

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WHAT CAN WE LEARN FROM THE OLDEST AMONG US ABOUT BOOSTING OUR WELL-BEING?

Why write a blog about the elderly? Most of us don’t like to think about aging. In fact, we try to avoid it.

However, I have discovered that this view about the elderly is needlessly negative and that, in fact, the oldest people can teach all of us, regardless of age, so much about the extent to which we have choices over the quality of...

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TO FEEL OR NOT TO FEEL: SHOULD WE LIVE A LIFE OF FEELING OR BLOCK OUT THE PAIN?

I grew up in a family of rational, left-brained people. I prided myself on keeping my emotions in check and remaining cool and collected. Then, anxiety struck me with a vengeance, and I ended up on an analyst’s couch 3 days a week in my early 20’s.

My client, Joe, who is in the throes of grieving a love relationship is desperately...

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Hope: MY GIFT TO YOU IN 2021

Introduction

Years ago, I lost my ability to hope. I had sustained a major loss, and the pain seemed unmanageable. I waited and waited, hoping the agony would evaporate.

Just at the point where I could see no way out, I looked up at the blue sky and saw Hope. The sky was full of it.

I can’t lie to you. Right now, the world feels...

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The Single Most Important Ingredient of a Successful Relationship

Introduction

If I were to ask you to name the single most important factor that you believe contributes to a rewarding and successful romantic relationship, you might well argue that empathy, communication, trust, or perhaps sex is the most essential.

While these, indeed, are critical components of successful relationships, they are not the ...

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THE PANDEMIC THANKSGIVING

I think most of us can agree that 2020 has been a year we won’t look back on fondly.  Rather, it’s a year that we’re all collectively just trying to get through.  Our lives are different, internally and externally, due to the devastation of the pandemic.

If you are struggling to feel the Thanksgiving gratitude you...

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