Radical Acts of Kindness

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Tis’ the season to get into the holiday spirit.

Sadly, this can also be a stressful time of year, figuring out the perfect gift to buy your partner and worrying about spending money.

However, kindness toward your partner requires very little time, money or hard work - simply a willingness to act from your heart.

In my practice, I have seen...

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Answer these 5 questions after your break-up and you’ll heal faster

The failure of a relationship closes one chapter of your life and starts a new one.

The healing process involves putting together a new and meaningful life.

However, it’s not like getting over the flu – rest, drink lots of fluids, and come out the other side good as new.

Recovering from the loss of a relationship takes time….a...

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Are you really as empathic with your partner as you think you are?

“Why can’t he just listen and try to understand my feelings / experience rather than telling me to stick to the “facts”?” 

“When we get into an argument, why does she always act like she’s being attacked?” 

I’ve seen the long-term effects of couples who really want to connect with...

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What do running a marathon and navigating a successful romantic relationship have in common?

More than you might think. 

There are no easy solutions or magic pills that will guarantee victory for either. 

Both involve a substantial commitment of time and effort. 

Neither is an impossible feat designed for special people.  They are for people like YOU, who want to push the limits and get out of your comfort zone....

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Have you hit a wall in your relationship?

Have you ever felt like your relationship was at a standstill? 

Like you and your partner have hit a wall and keep repeating the same flawed relationship patterns, and can’t seem to move forward? 

You want to keep going but you don’t know how to get unstuck? 

This is a very painful and frustrating spot to be in. 

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Should You Ever Lie To Your Partner?

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When I was a little girl, my Dad, - a very wise man who was passionate about justice -  told me that I should always look people in the eyes and tell them the truth.  I imagine many of you have been told the same.  

Relationships should be based on honesty.  By being truthful and managing the inevitable conflicts that...

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How To Transform Conflict Into Closeness

Recently, in between one of our weekly meetings, a high-conflict couple I am working with emailed me several pages of intense communications they had with one another.  Ostensibly, this was to highlight how they slid back into their typical primitive, reptile-like fighting style.  But, what each one really wanted me to do was to...

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Tips to Help You Stop Repeatedly Sabotaging Your Romantic Relationships

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It’s Not Me, It’s You – Or is it?

 

We all do it.  We think our relationships have problems because our partner needs to do something differently. 

 

“She’s so self-centered.  I never feel understood.”

“My husband is so inflexible and will rarely change his opinions.

 

Did...

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WHY IS IT SO HARD TO LET GO OF YOUR EX?

Attachment is part of the human condition.

 

When you were happily attached to your partner, you felt secure. 

Unfortunately, you may not have learned how to let go in the same way you learned to attach.  So, when loss happens, you may not know how to deal with it.

 

Why is breaking up so hard to do?

 

Below are the two...

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Is Divorce harder for the person leaving (The Dumper) or for the one being left (The Dumpee)?

In most divorce situations, one person wants out of the marriage while the other doesn’t.  Even in cases where a couple mutually agrees to a divorce, there is usually one person wants to hold on to the marriage more than the other one does. 

Is it more difficult for the person left because they were blindsided and their world...

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