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Find Meaning In The COVID Pandemic: Begin By Helping Others

Recently, after spending more time than I care to admit feeling angry, lonely and oh so sorry for myself because of being isolated from friends and family due to the pandemic, I decided I had better change my way of thinking and feeling and consider how to transform what I was experiencing as personal adversity into greater wisdom and meaning in...

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How To Improve Your Attachment Style To Your Romantic Partner During The Pandemic Lockdown

Introduction

As humans, we are social beings and are wired for attachment. 

Our bond with our parents or caregiver creates an “attachment style” – a kind of blueprint for how we handle close relationships later in life.

As adults, we seek or avoid intimacy along a continuum of attachment styles, ranging from secure to...

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The Check-Up for Couples Under Quarantine

If you are going to weather the Covid crisis, your relationship cannot be in crisis too.

With lockdown measures in place due to the spread of Covid 19, you may be spending more time with your partner than ever before.

Yes, there’s a good chance you might be getting on each other’s nerves.

Perhaps, you’re already at each...

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Father's Day: Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters

Introduction

On Sunday, June 21, dads across the United States are going to be showered with neckties, toolsets, after shave lotion, and gift cards as we celebrate Father’s Day, a holiday often thought of as an excuse to thank fathers for their love and dedication.

Conversations about the importance of fathers often revolves around sons:...

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What Is The Impact Of Unemployment On A Couples’ Relationship?

Introduction

Research shows that losing one’s job is as devastating a loss as divorce and death of a loved one.

More than 42.6 million Americans have filed jobless claims since the pandemic shutdown began in mid-March.

You and your partner may already be amongst the 42. 6 million, or you may face the real possibility of unemployment in the...

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How To Generate Optimism and Opportunity During COVID 19

As a person who typically sees the glass as half full, I am the first to admit that even an optimist can experience moments of pessimism brought on by the coronavirus.

The unpredictability and uncertainty brought by this virus promises new rules and limitations, challenges our ability to hold onto hope, and confidence that indeed this is the...

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Mother’s Day Reflections

Every Mother’s Day, our culture puts motherhood on a pedestal.  

As a Mom, and I speak for the millions of other Moms, I know that the real work of motherhood can be a daily grind – the worrying, the guilt, the concerns and the fears (not to mention the headaches).  We make mistakes, plenty of them.  Sometimes we...

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Don’t Let Your Romantic Relationship Become Another COVID 19 Casualty

 

Strategies To protect Your Relationship

Self- isolating with your partner indefinitely can be a BIG challenge for your relationship.

For sure, there are benefits to the challenge. You can strengthen the bond with your partner. And… .you can have sex anytime the mood strikes you.

But, make no mistake about it, you can also be faced...

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What Do You Do If You And Your Partner Disagree On How Risky COVID 19 Is?

 

Strategies To Protect Your Relationship

Partners, even those in long-term relationships, can have very different coping styles when it comes to dealing with the painful uncertainties of Covid 19.  

One may be more purposeful and proactive in moments of crisis, while the other is more passive and fatalistic.

However, if you and...

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Redefining The Work-Relationship Balance During COVID 19 Lockdown: Strategies To Protect Your Relationship

Once upon a time, the work-family configuration was comprised of separate spheres – work took place out of the home.  At the end of the workday, the stresses of work were essentially over, and home was a private retreat reserved for family.

Now, with the Covid 19 isolation, and modern technology allowing couples to telecommute, the...

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