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How To Find The Sweet Spot Between Closeness And Separateness In Your Romantic Relationship?

Many people equate relationship commitment with a loss of freedom and a kind of bondage.  It doesn’t have to be that way.

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Warmly,
Deb

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Romantic Relationships Are SO Complicated

When I was young, I thought of romantic relationships as very simple - you either love him / her or you don’t.

The truth is that human beings are complex and life is sometimes crazy, and that combination can make romantic relationships tricky, perplexing, and complicated in their own right.

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THE MANY REWARDS OF HELPING OTHERS TO BE THEIR BEST

In a previous blog, I spoke of your relationship with your SELF as, arguably, the most important relationship in your life and the most important element in a romantic relationship.

As a therapist, I know that it’s impossible to manage my patients’ goals and objectives if I am unable to remain aware of my own strengths, weaknesses,...

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THE VALUE OF PRIORITIZING OUR MENTAL HEALTH

Two recent events have caused me to think that if ever there was a time to promote the importance of minding our mental health and our need for self-care, this is it. 

First, it’s impossible to ignore the emergence of coronavirus and the resulting uncertainties we are facing; political, economic, financial and environmental. Stress,...

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Can Your Romantic Relationship Survive Post-Pandemic Life?

Love During Covid

Along with every other challenge we’ve faced over the past year, Covid 19 put our love lives to the test. No doubt, couples have felt overwhelmed, having to stay locked at home for prolonged periods, with or without each other. 

Overall, how did romantic relationships fare during the pandemic? The simple answer is -...

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IS IT EVER OK TO LIE TO YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER?

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All of us remember the story of Pinocchio and the role honesty played in his life. In order for Pinocchio, a marionette, to become the real boy he longed to be, first he had to prove that he had true values. However, the blue fairy warned him about lying, “A lie will keep growing till it’s as plain as the nose on your...

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YOU KNOW A LOT LESS THAN YOU THINK YOU DO

 

Introduction

Personally, I have been very troubled by the deep divides that currently exist in many areas of our society – religious, political, racial, as well as the differences between individuals.

I even find myself wondering if the gulf between what something feels like to me and to others is impenetrable.

It is so easy to disapprove...

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Every Mother’s Day, Our Culture Puts Motherhood on a Pedestal

As a Mom, and I speak for the millions of other Moms, I know that the real work of motherhood can be a daily grind – the worrying, the guilt, the concerns and the fears (not to mention the headaches). We make mistakes, plenty of them. Why? Because Motherhood can be demanding, exhausting, and messy.

Sometimes we feel very loved and...

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WHEN ONE OF YOUR CLOSEST FRIEND’S DIES

When I spoke to Linda on Christmas day, that version of me could not possibly know the loss I was about to experience 6 weeks later in February, when she died of Covid 19.  Of course, I know that none of us is invincible, and that experiencing loss binds all human beings together, but that doesn’t make it any easier when your dear...

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EVERYTHING YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT SEX DURING THE PANDEMIC BUT ARE AFRAID TO ASK

Can Coronavirus spread through sex?  Well, No--and--Yes, the experts tell us.

Can one stay 6 feet apart from their partner with a mask on and have great sex? Mmmmm.

My single clients often ask me if it is safe to start a new relationship or to have safe sex in an era of physical distancing? 

Not so much. You are your safest sex...

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