But too often they don’t.


Are you ready to begin a new relationship after a divorce/breakup?
 Are you worried you will repeat the same relationship mistakes and end up with a broken heart one more time?


 If so you’re not alone.


Contemporary neuroscience shows us that people make the same relationship mistakes over and over, only to get the same disappointing results, until they make a decision to change.

That’s where I come in.

 I help you turn your loss into a gain.


By learning and growing from it, both as an individual and as a couple.



Since my own divorce, I’ve committed my life to teaching my clients how to: 
  • Let go of failed relationships.
  • Stop making the same frustrating mistakes and replace them with behaviors that bring results.
  • Learn the ingredients of successful long-lasting relationships with my relationship model, Yours, Mine, Ours: Relationships Done Right.


Learn WHY your marriage/relationship came apart, the PART you played in it, and most importantly, HOW to empower yourself to move forward to ensure that these issues don’t occur in your future romantic relationships (to virtually “divorce-proof” them).

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So if you're wondering WHY your marriage/relationship ended... or how you even ended up considering divorce/breakup from a person you used to love so much, I’ve put together a 6-part email series for you, that you can have in your inbox today, and get the pieces to start to understand WHAT happened to your marriage within 15 minutes.

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