I know, you probably think I’m absolutely bogus for making that claim…

especially in the face of going through divorce/breakup.

After all, if love was meant to last, wouldn’t YOUR relationship of all relationships had lasted? ESPECIALLY with how deeply in love you were with each other when you got married?

I know, I’ve been there.

When I first got married, I just knew I’d be the one to avoid the crash & burn of marriages that people are always warning you about.

After all, we were really in love.

And I did avoid it. For 17 years.

And then, one day, my husband told me he was committed to another woman and left me. Just like that.

I was devastated, and for the first time knew what it would actually feel like to die of a broken heart.

Wasn’t he supposed to be the one?

Weren’t we in love?

And more importantly…. WHAT on earth had I done wrong to drive him away from me like that?



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Divorce is one of the most upsetting times in our lives, and the statistics show, that if we don’t navigate it correctly, we’re doomed to repeat our mistakes.

Because while 41% of first-union marriages end in divorce, 60% of second marriages do, and 73% of third marriages fail.

It’s not because we don’t “learn our lessons” about money, sex, or gender roles. It’s because we don’t learn our lessons about what triggers us in relationships (romantic or not), and HOW to heal and communicate about those things.

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