It’s
been nearly 20 years since my marriage cracked open
on a sunny summer afternoon. I was devastated
and panic-stricken at the thought of being on my own. Flying solo as a
parent of two young daughters, the primary money and
decision- maker - much less starting another serious
relationship - were terrifying thoughts. I was caught
between holding on and knowing I had to face (what
felt like) the nightmare of being single. Many sleepless
nights followed.
Despite
my professional training and the many clinical
hours I had worked, I soon realized how completely
ill-prepared I felt to confront the dread of standing
on my own two feet. What I needed, and was
unable to find, was someone whose expertise would
be helping me to ride the initial shock waves of
divorce.
During the throes of coming to
grips with my own divorce and reinventing myself
I fell down countless times. Each time I found the courage to get
up, I gained wisdom that propelled me forward. In
addition, I spent numerous hours researching the
literature on divorce and in so doing I developed
a solid grasp of the psychology of the separation
process. By assembling my personal confusion
and my professional expertise it is my goal to make
certain that you avoid some of the pitfalls and danger
signals that I overlooked. Indeed, it is precisly
because of my personal pain and my professional knowledge
that I am confident I can help you face your
fears and become a more self-determining person.
Living on my own was not my choice, as it may not
be yours. The emotional disarray I experienced in
going it alone led me on a mission to learn as much
as I could about the transition from being part of
a couple to living on my own successfully.
My objective is to give you the best possible assistance
at the time you need it the most by helping you to
normalize this journey.
