“Her compassionate understanding of the challenges ahead coupled with her profound insights and advice
are certain to make a positive impact on so many lives that might otherwise have been destroyed.”
- Rosalind Sedacca, founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network and
author of How Do I Tell the Kids About the Divorce?

Who Am I Without My Partner?
Post-Divorce Healing and Rediscovering Your SELF

Incorporating well-established psychological theories about how individuals rebuild their identities after the breakup of their marriages.  Who Am I Without My Partner is the first book of its kind on divorce.  Drawing on case studies as well as the author’s clinical experience, this self-help approach is a primer on navigating the often rocky post-divorce /separation landscape, for which most people are ill-prepared.  Always optimistic, the book highlights the challenges of this vital transition and offers constructive solutions.


"Divorce challenges the basic sense of who you are, who you’ve been, and you you’ll become. And yet, although millions before you have gone through it – and with the divorce rate now hovering at 50%, millions more will follow – being part of that large crowd doesn’t necessarily make things any easier. For most, divorce is a lonely time, filled with fear and doubt.”
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“In fact, we commonly look to our partners in marriage to make up for the attributes we lack. This interdependent situation ….is based on deficits established in the early developmental connections between child and parent, that crucial time when a parent should be supporting her child so she can become a strong, independent person. Just like in childhood, finding your place in the world as you move away from a primary relationship in adulthood is not an easy thing. Unconscious, often destructive coping mechanisms can take over, mechanisms that were established during the bonding period with your mother and father.”
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